Considered another talented doctor in the entertainment industry, “Dr. Jeab-Lalana Kongthoranin”, besides having previously won the Miss Thailand crown, has also continued to help society in many ways. Recently, she opened up on the WOODY FM program, revealing the story of encountering many goodbyes until she felt like letting go and not clinging to life. In terms of love for 8 years, her girlfriend Nong Dear helped fill her heart and heal her heart on a day of great suffering.
Being a doctor, what is the most common thing you encounter?
Dr. Jeab: Let me first say that I am very happy to meet P’Woody today. We have met since I was a child, more than 10 years ago. At that time, I was still studying emergency medicine. Now I have graduated and become an emergency doctor. I am happy to be able to sit and talk to you today. I would like to say that my thoughts at that time and now have changed a lot. At that time, it was like a time when we were learning and growing. But now that I have come this far, I feel like I have worked more and grown more. I have encountered many things, but one thing that I thought would never come, and I thought it would never happen to me. But in reality, it is there, and that is, goodbyes. Or will we have to be separated from the people we love? It will definitely come.
When you were studying medicine, did you have a great teacher? Or did you think you wouldn’t encounter those events?
Dr. Jeab: Because I was young, I thought it wouldn’t be me. When I was a student, I wasn’t in the emergency department, or did I encounter farewells or deaths as often as I did when I was an emergency doctor. It was a department that encountered many different kinds of farewells, and at many ages. They came at unexpected times. They didn’t intend to say goodbye at all. Suddenly, they encountered bad news. And then it happened repeatedly. It made me feel that one day, it would be me who would encounter this kind of event. And I knew that no matter how much money you have, how powerful or famous you are, these things are something that everyone has to face. There’s nothing that can prevent it.
What effect did all of this have on our minds as a doctor?
Dr. Jeab: To be honest, when I was young, I didn’t realize it. I was annoyed in the beginning when I went back to study emergency medicine. One day, what would I do? I tried to think of a way, but there was no way. I just knew that I had to do my best at that moment with the people I loved and the things I wanted to do. Because if that day comes, I will feel that I don’t regret anything anymore. Then I was careless and didn’t think that that day would come again. I lived my life carelessly until I grew up and was in my late 30s. I started to realize that the more suffering or anything else I encountered in my life, the more I started to see that in the end, happiness is not permanent.
Which used to think that if we passed the medical school exam, happiness would be there, we must be very happy, life goal is there. But the day the results were announced, I remember that Jeab was indifferent. I was happy, but it was like everything we had devoted for 3 years did not feel like what we had expected at that time. After passing the medical school exam, new suffering came crashing down. The intense study, we set a new goal that if we graduated as a doctor, we would be the best. We endured, and on the day we graduated, under the title of female doctor at first, we were very stressed, even more miserable than before. When we graduated, we had to take responsibility for the lives of our patients with our own signatures, there were no teachers to ask anymore.
Until I came back to study emergency medicine again to become a better and better doctor. And I set a new goal that I would be an emergency doctor and everything would be over. When I graduated, I had panic attacks instead. There was no true and lasting happiness. So I felt that life is like this. Therefore, we must not cling to it. We must learn to let go of things. What should we do if suffering comes and we can handle the situation better?
Does having a lover fulfill your life?
Dr. Jeab: Having a lover is probably the most valuable thing for me, more than fame, money, or any kind of power. I think that sometimes money can’t buy something. Power can’t buy true love. It’s a great source of encouragement to help us overcome problems or obstacles. As I grow older, I spend more time with my family and my lover.
How do loved ones heal us?
Dr. Jeab: Both in terms of family, which is a part that has helped Jeab come this far, including parents, siblings, etc., and also Jeab’s lover, Nong Dear.
How many years have you been together?
Dr. Jeab: It’s been almost 8 years. He came in when I felt very weak. Simply put, it was my first time getting my heart broken. I’ve never been this miserable before. It made me realize that when people are sick, it’s hard because I’m a doctor who treats the body. I know that no matter what it is, take this medicine and you’ll get better if it’s a curable disease. But when people are sad about anything, whether it’s disappointment, failing an exam, or heartbreak, there’s no medicine that you can take to make them sad. In the end, it’s up to your heart. When you can heal yourself, you’ll be sad again. But it’s not easy for us to do.
But Nong Dear, he was the doctor who healed my heart that day. His words and actions healed my heart until I felt valuable and today it’s like we’re going forward together. He’s also studying to be a psychologist. So I told him that I’m a doctor who heals the body, while he’s a doctor who heals the heart. So I really admire people who can heal people’s hearts because I feel that it’s difficult to make someone change their perspective on life or have the strength to go back to living the life they want to be. I feel grateful to him and I’m glad that he’s walking this path.
