Two best friends “Woonsen Virithipa – Ning Panita” came together to open their hearts on the program WOODY INTERVIEW, revealing their learning from their experiences in relationships, choosing to love themselves more according to the time and wounds that occurred in their lives until they crystallized their thoughts, starting over is better than staying in the same place.
What have you learned so far, since you two are in different phases of your relationship?
Woonsen: Woon learned about her own needs. If we go back 10-20 years ago, from when she was a teenager until she grew up, she went through many things. Believe it or not, what she wanted was not the same because she had never experienced anything. Therefore, she would not know at a point of confusion whether she liked or disliked something. But when she reached this point, she went through everything, making her feel that she had already ticked off what she wanted. She would choose to stay with that. And what was not for her and did not make her happy, she would cut it out. Today, at the age of 40, she has to choose what truly makes her happy. If she did not have experience, she would never know. She would know what good energy is, so she would choose to stay with that.
Ning: Actually, it’s similar, but if it’s Ning’s definition today, everything happens when there’s a problem, start learning slowly, and the hardest thing is to accept it and have to let go of it, which isn’t easy. But it’s become very easy for Ning today. There’s a fine line between letting go and letting go. Letting go means still having to live with it as we’re happy, but sometimes we choose not to have to live with it. Letting go makes us happier. We have to learn to love ourselves enough to let go of some things.
How do we know when to stay longer or when it’s enough?
Ning: Ning thinks that in the end, we have to make a checklist. If the negative is greater than the positive, we have to let go. I think people just don’t dare to leave the old thing because they’re afraid of starting over. But starting over, believe me, is better than staying in the same place. Because staying in the same place is just breaking even or hurting. But leaving may be better than breaking even.
Woonsen: For Woon, when friends say why I’m here and can’t go anywhere, I’ll say there’s no way I can go if I still think like this, if I still feel like I want to stay here. But one day, no matter how big or small the problem is, if you can’t handle it anymore, that limit of patience will disappear. When people are together, the most important thing is patience, right? But it’s patience in a reasonable way. If you have to endure and hurt yourself, Woon doesn’t recommend it. But Woon can’t force it. No one knows love better than two people.
Ning: In this case, we don’t love ourselves enough to dare to let go of the person we love. In reality, if we don’t love ourselves, we can’t love anyone well.
Woonsen : We love ourselves more as time goes by and as the wounds in life occur.
Has there ever been a point where we didn’t love ourselves?
Woonsen: Yes, always. Growing up this much, we have met many people, encountered many types of things. There are both people who when they say something, we feel good, who are the energy for our lives, and some energy that makes us feel like no matter how much we do, it is never enough. Some people in relationships have various issues, small things, but why do they cause us so much pain? In the past, Woon was someone who wanted others to be happy more than herself. Little did I know that every time I thought like this, every time I gave in, or every time I was hurt, I was hurting myself. And Woon didn’t want to be there anymore. Other people were happy, but I was hurt and crying. It wasn’t fair to my life. So I had to change my mindset. When I used the words “love myself more”, the energy came from nowhere. The energy to live and work came back in large amounts.
Ning is someone who does a lot of things?
Ning: If it wasn’t happiness, Ning wouldn’t be able to do it. But when you do something and it’s successful, and then you build on what you’ve done and it’s successful too, that’s happiness. Before, it would be the thought that I wanted to do it because I wanted money, because I wanted to be rich, I wanted to have it, I wanted it. When it’s like that, there will be negative energy coming in. But today, I feel that if I do it and I’m not happy, Ning will immediately retreat. But I will do what makes me happy. It’s tiring, but at the end of the day, it creates a huge amount of energy in the people who receive it from us, success, and smiles.
