Why is love so difficult these days? Is society becoming more complex, or are we just becoming more self-centered? THE LAZY GENIUS premieres with love guru “DJ P’Aoy Napaporn,” who offers a straightforward look into all aspects of relationships, revealing shortcuts for everyone from married couples and singles to those stuck in ambiguous relationships. Is it wrong to love an AI, and how can you love intelligently? Plus, tips on healing broken hearts. Joining her is “Chris Horwang,” a new host from Life Dot under WOODY WORLD , as a Fact Finder, guiding you in finding shortcuts and answers from real experts. She’ll experiment and ask questions on behalf of the viewers to find the best and easiest solutions for every aspect of life, without trial and error, revealing the advantages and limitations in a straightforward manner. Because a good life doesn’t have to be complicated.
Why will love be so difficult in 2026 for both couples and singles?
DJ P’Aoy: I think society today is becoming more complicated. More complicated means more self-centeredness. Before, it was either a friend or a lover, or a lover or a friend – that was it. But today, relationships have so many different labels. We try to find explanations for them. This is called “Love Bombing,” this is called a “breaded-on” relationship. Basically, it’s just self-centeredness. Today, you want a boyfriend/girlfriend, and you want someone to talk to, and coincidentally, that person is also willing to be someone to talk to.
When will we become a couple after we’ve been talking for a while? What do we need to do?
DJ P’Aoy: When people become more self-centered, there are countless relationships that lack clarity because they’re afraid that if things become clear, they won’t even be able to be just someone to talk to. We have to accept that love isn’t based on reason. That’s why we fall in love with people we shouldn’t. But some people say, “That’s true love. It’s just that he/she is someone else’s partner. Why would we go searching for true love from someone else’s boyfriend/girlfriend?” That’s not right. But then there’s the side of those who say, “But I’m just talking to him/her! See how self-centered I am? I’m just talking to him/her! I don’t want to steal anyone!” But don’t forget that relationships and people’s feelings can’t be completely stopped like that.
Are people becoming more selfish?
DJ P’Aoy: I think selfishness may have always been present, but it’s just being expressed more because we tend to think that if everyone does something wrong at the same time, it means it’s not wrong. For example, let’s say there’s a no-U-turn sign here, but the first car makes a U-turn. “Why can they?” I’m the second car, and I think, “I can make a U-turn here too. If the police were going to arrest someone, they would have arrested the first car already.” Then, the third car sees two cars making U-turns and thinks, “The sign here is wrong; you can make U-turns here.” So it becomes a feeling like, “Isn’t everyone doing this?” This applies to relationships that aren’t serious, just for fun, where people meet each other without any commitment. When this selfishness happens simultaneously, it makes people who want a serious relationship feel like it’s harder these days because everyone is acting like this, thinking that because they don’t have a serious partner yet, or even because they’re not married, they still have choices.
Statistically, who is more interested in seeking a serious relationship, women or men?
DJ P’Aoy: I think in this year (2023), it’s not about gender anymore, because now we have a wide range of gender identities. Before, I have to admit that when I hosted Club Friday, 90% of the callers were women who were victims. This made men not like listening because they felt like they were being constantly criticized, especially since the host was a woman. But lately, I feel that as the world has become more open, everyone can reveal their vulnerabilities. Many men are victims too.
Most heartbreaks stem from people’s own expectations. Is there a way to fix this?
DJ P’Aoy: Let me start by saying I’ve talked to neurologists and psychiatrists. No human being is without expectations. Don’t say you can love without expectations. And the doctors used a phrase that I really like: We expect not to expect anything, but ultimately, everyone has expectations. We’ve taken care of ourselves up to a certain point, and then we feel like we should try starting a conversation with this person. Remember, what they’re investing is their time. So, if you talk to them, you should think they’re serious. If they’re just talking casually and say, “I’m talking to 15 other people right now,” would you still want to continue talking to them?
Do you understand that expectations are normal? We talk to him because we want to get to know him, but it turns out we’re just one of the options he’s talking to. Some people are willing to be in a “keep-allowed” relationship hoping that one day he might choose them, but there are many who are in a “keep-allowed” relationship where they don’t necessarily choose anyone. There are some who know full well that they’re just a “multi-vitamin” among others, it’s obvious, but they still want to continue, giving themselves false hope that one day he’ll realize who has been there the longest. I feel that patience isn’t my selling point. Why do I have to beg for love so much? I want a little happiness, but I’m risking my whole life for it. I know I love him and I want to give it a try, but I should set a time limit for myself, otherwise it’s a waste of my life.
How to overcome the fear of living alone?
DJ P’Aoy: I feel like many times we’re so afraid of loneliness that we accept just anyone into our lives, even if they’re not the right person. Before we met them, how were we living? I can’t tell everyone to believe everything I say, but I just feel that if we can fulfill ourselves by making ourselves happy, we’ll be more mindful in choosing who comes into our lives. But if we’re the type of person who feels incomplete, constantly thinking, “I need someone to fill this emptiness in my life,” will they really be able to? If they don’t intend to fill you, they’ll just be by your side for a short time, and then they’ll have to go stand beside someone else. If you haven’t met that person yet, or if you have but they find someone better, don’t be overly sad. Loneliness or being single isn’t a punishment from heaven. We just haven’t met someone who makes us happier when we’re together than when we were single.
Do we humans really need love?
DJ P’Aoy: I wouldn’t use the word “necessary,” but rather, if you ever find someone who makes you feel like, “I don’t know how many days I have left in my life, but I want to be happy with that person,” then go for a life partner. Sometimes, it’s really that simple. It’s not just about finding a life partner, is it? Who doesn’t live without a final day? No one tells you in advance, “You’ll be gone in 25 years.” But no one can predict it. So why do we still study, gain knowledge, and strive to live our lives well? Because the breath we take before our last day is what truly matters. Therefore, if you feel you’ve done your best, cared for each other as much as you could, then whenever that day comes, looking back, all you want is good memories together, perhaps the happiness that comes after one of you has passed away.
Is there a quick shortcut in Move On?
DJ P’Aoy: I don’t know if it’s a shortcut, but one shortcut I often see is that when you’re sad, you should be sad to the fullest. Whenever there’s internal conflict, we prolong the sadness. Many things need to be treated according to the symptoms. Don’t try to be strong when you’re weak; the wound will become too big. Be completely sad, and then see what happens. Because, as I said, I’ve never seen anyone cry themselves to death, but it’s like you learn to deal with your own heart better. After that, I believe you’ll have a way of telling yourself, because if they truly loved you, they wouldn’t leave you to be their ex-girlfriend.
What’s the deal with Thai people’s relationship with exes? They get back together after just one message from their ex?
DJ P’Aoy: He just said hello. Just because he contacted you doesn’t mean he’s back in love, everyone. Actually, I think Thais have been obsessing over exes for a long time. Try searching for old songs; there are so many about exes, like “Nam Tem Kaew” (Water Full Glass), “Tua Jing Khong Ther” (Your True Self), and countless others. It reflects the inability to move on. And recently, have you seen the AI app in China? They input all the information about exes – their speaking style, tone of voice, personality, even their food preferences. It’s a hugely popular app, supposedly for those who can’t move on. I wonder if it really helps you move on more easily? It’s not right at all. And it turns out, the people using it are those who already have new partners. If your ex is still in your heart, don’t drag your new partner into this pain.
It feels like people’s hearts are becoming more fragile these days. And in some worlds where we feel inferior, it’s because we constantly compare ourselves to others online. Even today, many people are sending questions to Club Friday like, “Is it wrong for me to be in a relationship with an AI?” because it’s an AI they created, and they feel that when they talk to other humans, no one understands them. They prefer talking to the AI because the system is programmed to flatter them. The AI might say something like, “I think you’re someone who works hard for everyone, but if you were here, talking to me, you wouldn’t be tired at all.” When a person’s heart isn’t given any emotional support, it becomes attached. But remember, AI is something we feed information into ourselves. Psychologists have analyzed that prolonged use of these dating apps can lead to emotional infidelity.
For people with unclear relationship status?
DJ P’Aoy: I feel like the lack of clarity today might be because we want more than what they offer. If someone is deeply in love and wants to be in a relationship, one movie I watched a long time ago, “When Harry Met Sally,” questions whether a man and a woman can truly be friends. And coincidentally, there’s a line in the movie that says if you find the right person, you won’t waste a single second and will try everything to spend your life with them as soon as possible. So, if the status is unclear, it might be because they don’t love you enough to ask you to be their girlfriend/boyfriend. In an unclear relationship, sometimes you feel like you want more, but they can’t let you be that way. Then, when you try to walk away, you can’t, but you also can’t get closer. If you want sincerity, don’t trade in infidelity. You want someone who truly loves you, but you’re talking to five other people. That’s why I say, is it fair to those people? No one wants to be just a supporting character without being the real deal. Everyone has the right to choose their own love.
Love wishes for 2026 from DJ P’Aoy.
DJ P’Aoy : Don’t rush into expecting true love. Just take care of the love you have now as best you can. I think whether something is “true” or not sometimes depends on ourselves. And if you ever meet someone who makes you have to be overly patient, weigh the happiness against the suffering carefully. But don’t be so patient for someone else that you become cruel to yourself.