Jack Fanchan reveals his identity that no one has ever known on WOODY FM about his love life, fatherhood, and husbandhood, having to adjust after facing serious problems. He wept! He was once afraid of dying due to stress from panic disorder, learning to be a giver rather than a taker, and transforming himself for the sake of his family.
Actually, what would Jack be like if he were not at home with his wife and children?
Jack Fanchan : I would stay quiet and not talk to anyone. If I had a choice, I would just stay still because I have been through a lot outside. I have tried not to be selfish since I had a family. Because before, I would be selfish in the sense that I am tired outside and want to take a break because I will have to be tired outside again. Because I have chosen to be a giver this time, more than a taker. Are there takers? There are. It’s not like I can’t lie to people and say, “Hey, you can’t do that.” So I feel that I can be one too. But I am more of a giver because I feel happy. If I died, at first I was very afraid of dying. If I really died, before I had to die, I would say, “It’s worth it.” (voice shaking, almost crying) I mean, “Are you going to die already?” or something like that. It’s worth it. My parents are everything. If I choose to die, I would like to sleep like my grandmother. The way my grandmother came to me. She was a giver, she was my role model. (crying) My grandmother is the best. But I don’t want to die or anything like that. I just feel very afraid of dying. I’m afraid of dying. I used to have a panic attack like you one day. I remember clearly. So I feel that people who have high stress, I understand people who have panic attacks or people who have depression.
Have you ever been like this?
Jack Fanchan: It was just one day, and then I was like, we can’t do this. I yelled at Panic. I yelled at him right away, because people who aren’t stressed out about work wouldn’t understand. I was so angry. I had to drive to my friend right then and there, and then he understood. I listened intently to him, and then I just felt that everyone is afraid of death because they feel like they’re completely gone. But then I wanted to do a show that I was confident I could do next year. I believe that I have experience from being 35. I believe that my next show will benefit society. It’s not just funny. It’s so much more.
The stress of having children, starting a family, and earning money—many others in this country are experiencing these same situations. How do you cope with them and stay physically strong each day?
Jack Fanchan: I look at each generation, but I believe that many people, and I emphasize many people all over the world, are experiencing the most problems. If we don’t go back to the Tom Yum Kung crisis, it would be businesspeople. But now, we’re in an era where we’re faced with many diseases, many things, many factors, causing people to be highly stressed. So, as an ordinary person, what I can tell the audience is to just live in moderation, be careful, and don’t be careless. If you know there’s even the slightest risk, don’t do it. Because if there are consequences, your responsibility and your family’s responsibility really can’t handle it. So, in this era, we should be mindful. Everyone has been through bad things. Everyone has been through terrible things. You have to always remember that working or going to war outside, there are wounds from your boss, from your team. These wounds will make you remember and keep them in mind that in the future, we have this lesson. These wounds are the lessons you’ve experienced.
And don’t stress too much. Because if you stress too much, your brain can’t be destroyed. Your brain has to move on. It has to move on in other ways. Therefore, anger doesn’t help anything get better. Anger only lasts for a short while, it’s just satisfying. But when you look down on other people and don’t know how to use them, this shows that people still have a lot of potential. That talented people or anyone who has to go through a lot more. So let’s put this aside for now. The problem is, the world is full of problems. So take your life slowly. Save whatever you can save, don’t risk it. I used to analyze why everyone wants to have every material thing because most people are materialistic. Why is value important? Just having something worth hundreds of thousands or millions of baht makes you weak immediately. Therefore, I just discovered that if we’re not materialistic, but our hearts are strong or our bodies are strong, we don’t have to make ourselves expensive, no matter where we go, people will love us. So I chose to get rid of that materialism. I try to make people love me.
Jack himself was once attached to a very heavy object?
Jack Fanchan: Very much.
Why did you decide to stop?
Jack Fanchan: The material process. I believe that many people who haven’t had one want one. We can’t stop their thoughts. It’s not wrong. Everyone wants one. Everyone wants a big house. Everyone wants a supercar. Everyone wants a designer watch. Everything. I used to be one of those people who really wanted one. I felt like I chose not to have one because I thought about it. If I did, I’d be stressed. I’d be anxious. It wasn’t to the point where I could do whatever I wanted. I felt like it’s better to choose only those objects that are useful and have further benefits. Because I thought, ‘Suppose I have an expensive watch, right?’ Or an expensive car. I’d choose to have one to save my life. It wouldn’t go any further than that because I felt that if I took something expensive, I’d use it to some extent. It’s not that I’m not expensive at all. I still have some. I’d rather give this part to others. Give it to those who don’t have it. Because giving this might help others who support me. I don’t give like today. People are afraid to donate these days. In this era, people are afraid. They’re stressed. What if I give this? Where does the money go? So I feel that these material things make me afraid. If I have a lot of them, I’ll look unattractive. So I threw those objects away. I gave the objects I wanted to have to other people.
What was it like to be called unattractive in the past?
Jack Fanchan: Let’s say I had a lot of money. People might think I was lying because I don’t have any, so I’m talking about it. I do have some, but I choose not to show them off. I feel that being unattractive doesn’t please many people, and it’s inappropriate. From my perspective, I just think that material things make us unattractive. We tend to get lost in them and end up in groups that we’re not meant to be in. We try not to. It makes us lose focus, our life goes astray. For example, it becomes automatic that once we have this, we need to have something else. Then we check the overall picture. Do you know why there are so many money laundering cases in our country? It’s because of material things. If we didn’t focus on that, and lived a self-sufficient life, I think there wouldn’t be so many incidents like this. Let’s try to cut some out.
Kaki is so cute. Has he changed your life?
Jack Fanchan: I’ve changed a lot. I’ve changed a lot. I’ve changed a lot. I’ve been very supportive of my wife and children because I chose to be the leader. I’ve had issues since I was a child, but I don’t blame anyone. We try to make the best of it. I believe every family has problems, but we try to raise our family as best we can. We might not have any problems talking today, but we don’t know about the future, but we choose to protect our feelings as a mother. A mother is the greatest asset because if a mother is happy, the child will be happy. Therefore, we must make her happy first before the child will be happy. Being a woman is delicate. She bears everything. We shouldn’t be selfish. We’re men, after all. So if you choose to have a family or someone to complete you (tears welling up in your eyes), you have to be very mindful. You have to plan your life carefully. Don’t just think, “Whatever.” It doesn’t help improve society. Simply put, children who come out or encounter the world want to have happy lives and have good minds. At the very least, don’t force them to be a certain gender or career. It’s the child’s happiness. Because we see that our wives have chosen to respect us. We have to respect our wives more than before.
Are you both an outstanding father and an outstanding husband now?
Jack Fanchan: People might not like it, they might say it’s fake.
So do you care today?
Jack Fanchan: Well, if the person who said it might care a little.
I think you’re a complete human being. You’re a complete person. You’re funny, you can be ordered around, and you can crack jokes. But at the same time, you’re also quite serious. I’m not saying you’re serious, but I mean, you know what you want from life.
Jack Fanchan: If I grow up, I’ll still make vulgar jokes. People who watch me on Woody’s channel don’t like me for being vulgar. This is who I am. But actually, when I go on other channels to do comedy, if I don’t do comedy, they won’t hire me. “Not funny” in this context means not being vulgar. People will think that being vulgar is funny. Actually, I feel uncomfortable because if I can’t do it, I won’t have money to support my family.
